No matter how much we dial in our wellness routines and habits, life happens and we all occasionally fall off track. Course correcting early and often can help, but I’ve come to believe that the key to sustaining wellbeing lies in learning to master the skill of recalibration. Here are the three steps that I often take when I need to recalibrate and reset my wellness focus:

1. Block off space and time.

This first step is all about stopping so you can start again. I like to begin this phase on a weekend when I can minimize commitments. A big part of taking a full pause, however, means not forcing expectations on yourself. I find this to be the hardest part, but some simple mindfulness can help. By bringing awareness to any discomfort you have around slowing down and doing less, you can begin to detach from the urge to continue to grind and instead focus on the enjoyment of slipping into relaxation.

2. Find your foundation.

Once you’ve slowed your rhythm, then give yourself a few days for self-care. I like to do this following the weekend – a few weeknights with no commitments or evening work tends to do the trick. During this phase I try to focus on just doing some basic healthy behaviors, without any kind of rigidity. This can mean drinking water, cooking a healthy meal, maybe doing some light activity like a yoga class or a short run. Lastly, I try to spend some time outdoors or in nature, which I always find to be invigorating and good for positivity.

3. Reverse the momentum.

Once the healthy behaviors start to kick in, it’s important to commit to getting back on schedule. Start up your basic morning routine and recommit to whatever your cornerstone habits are. For me this includes: Moving Daily (30 min or more), Eating Whole Foods (don’t worry about calories), Resting (set a bedtime), Meditation (10 min or more in the morning). If you need some extra support, try making it social – do some sort of healthy activity or meal with a friend – this makes it more fun and it holds you accountable.

This post is part of a series called Things Unfinished. It is an exploration of creative endeavors that I started, but never completed. This particular piece was inspired by some coaching that I led with founders and designers who were looking to overcome burnout and learn how to work in healthier and happier ways. This is a hurdle that is near and dear to me.

Resisting a thought or a feeling is kind of like trying to yank your fingers out of a Chinese finger trap. The harder you pull, the stronger its grasp becomes on you. When you stop trying to force that release, the contraption, like the thought or the feeling, easily slides away. The finger trap doesn’t magically disappear of course. The absence of struggle and moving inwards loosens the grip, which then creates space and allows you to effortlessly remove your fingers.

The same is true for our minds and in our lives. Sometimes the most effective and least painful way of shedding our struggles, is simply to move towards them, acknowledge them and then let them go. By creating space for that movement to occur, the outcomes we seek come more fluidly and more quickly. Of course, it can often be surprising to discover that what we struggled so hard for, was in fact quite easy the entire time. I suppose self-created struggle is a very human quality. All the more reason to bring awareness to resistance, and then, even if for a moment, let it be.

This post is part of a series called Things Unfinished. It is an exploration of creative endeavors that I started, but never completed. In many ways it is also an inventory of my fears.

This little analogy has been sitting in my journal, tucked away for later. It felt precious and made me smile. I wanted to package it in something worthy, something big, something important. But creativity doesn’t have to be big or important. In fact, these lovely little nuggets can sometimes stay with us longer, coloring our understanding of the world.

These are some thoughts I compiled a while back for when things at work are tough and advice on “how to quit your job” or “follow your passion” just doesn’t cut it. When I first wrote this piece, I was navigating a particularly difficult environment. Packaging my thoughts through the lens of Job Advice was a way for me to explore underlying questions of dignity and the human spirit, while also expressing an experience that at the time I didn’t know how to openly talk about. 

The aftermath of the elections has resurfaced these topics for me in a big way. It’s reminded me of what it feels like for another human being to make someone feel small and the way that can call into question our sense of worth and lead us to behave accordingly. In my own experience I discovered how easy it can be to subconsciously and unintentionally adopt the mindset and behaviors of your environment. Needless to say, I learned a lot about compassion during this time and the importance of connecting with our humanity, especially when it is hard.

For those who are trying to figure out ways to exist in an imperfect culture, here are some things that helped me navigate a difficult environment. While these points are framed in the context of work, I think they can also be applied more broadly.

1. GET PERSPECTIVE

Build your own foundation outside of the job that frames the larger sum of your activities and tells the full story of who you are and what you’re capable of. Try not to let things like credentials and hierarchy define you. By being very intentional about choosing your vantage point, you can create the playing field that elevates you above your circumstances.

2. BE KIND

Take a step back and try to be mindful about how you show up in relation to your circumstances. Don’t react, don’t let them define you. Be kind to yourself and to those around you. Consider the likelihood that those who you may be conflict with, are also facing frustration and challenges in showing up day after day.

3. DON’T FREAK OUT

Had a bad day or a crappy meeting? Don’t freak out. Pause, maybe go on a walk. Then deliberately and consistently take small steps towards your larger goal or new opportunities. Everything changes. Have faith in your ability to guide yourself towards a better future.

4. FUEL UP

Being in a bad work situation can be really draining. Finding ways to refuel yourself is crucial because it keeps your spirit alive. It gives you the spark and the motivation to keep going. If you’re not being fueled up by your job, find sources outside of work or talk to your manager or team about finding ways to interject little activities that energize you. 

5. LET THERE BE HOPE

Do everything it takes to maintain moments of joy and general optimism. This is the number one priority. There must be hope. Hope in the present moment, hope that the current circumstances can change, hope for a better future.

Lastly, while it’s important to keep showing up in less than ideal circumstances, it’s also important to not put our lives on hold until we find ourselves in a better situation. Make your journey your asset. Draw on your creativity to make your situation work for you, to reap the lesson, to leapfrog beyond your constraints. And remember, “hope inspires the good to reveal itself.”

This post is part of a series called Things Unfinished. It is an exploration of creative endeavors that I started, but never completed. In many ways it is also an inventory of my fears.

The hardest part of flight can often be the point of lift off. It is the most honest point in an upward trajectory. It demands that you admit whether or not you truly want to soar. It is the moment you find yourself in a headstand, not toppling over, but instead swaying in balance. It is the unexpected arrival of success. It is falling in love. It is the sensation that the writing or art that you’re making is exactly what it needs to be and that in fact, it’s exactly what you want it to be.

The sketch above is small section from a larger multimedia piece that I began years ago. I was halfway through making it, when I started to feel a deep sense of satisfaction and I froze. I got scared that I might mess it up. While I never completed the piece, I held onto it for years because it represented the hope and exhilaration of goods things unfinished.

Last year during an apartment purge I couldn’t quite bring myself to let go of the drawing. Instead, I tore out the girl whose feet lift off the earth, half in flight, as she tosses birds upward into the air. This sketch represents a continuous theme in my life — a tension between meaning and freedom, a conflicted desire for both roots and adventure, the darkest, deepest question of how to live a life that affords me both a sense of vitality and a sense of love and belonging.

If nothing else, the lesson I take from this first post on Things Unfinished, is that it is precisely in these moments of lift off that we we have a choice to make: we can choose to slam hard on the breaks and not screw it up, or we can choose to relax into the momentum, letting it sweep us forward, without controlling how we soar, where we go or when or how we land.

My hope is that I can learn to always take flight when I’m afforded the ability to soar. I know that whether I stay afloat or not is of less importance. What matters is that point of honesty and the willingness to jump into both joy and fear, because that is the most beautiful sensation of all. Some might even say that lifting off is the whole point of flight in the first place.

This post is part of a series called Things Unfinished. It is an exploration of creative endeavors that I started, but never completed. In many ways it is also an inventory of my fears.

This year I’ve been acutely aware of my creative blockages. Perhaps this is because I feel more connected to my creative energy and I’ve become much more aware of the extent to which it fuels my experiences, my relationships and generally brings a sense of abundance to my life.

So why the blockages? I was recently reminded of the power of fear, perfectionism and biting off too much, while watching a ZenHabits webinar on Creating Daily. I had the fortune of learning some of these lessons a couple of years ago while doing a fantastic coaching program with Leo. Funny enough, my original post on these lessons randomly republished itself a few weeks ago. I’m not sure why this happened. Maybe it was the wordpress gods telling me to start again or maybe my blog was getting lonely and this was it’s way of telling me it needs some love.

Regardless, I find that in my personal work I am often guilty of starting creative projects and not finishing them, so I’ve decided to challenge myself and do a little exercise. For the remainder of the year, I’m going to publish one thing a week that is born of something that I started but didn’t finish. There is one rule. I can’t spend more than 60 minutes on any piece I repurpose or revive. When I’m done, I will publish it, even if it doesn’t feel complete or polished.

This is scary, I feel exposed already. But also excited. Bear with me, friends. I’m getting my creativity back. I am making art out of things unfinished.